Habit 1: Be Proactive
Based on the title, you’d think I’m writing something out of Sean Covey’s book, the Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens. Well, you’re right!
Recently, I’ve been overhearing conversations that go something like this:
“That teacher, Mr. ABC, doesn’t teach anything. All he does is sit around and let us talk. I mean, the talking’s fine. But that’s, like, my lowest grade.”
“I know right? I don’t learn anything from him. He’s a horrible, boring teacher.”
Oh. I see. So Mr. ABC has the remote control of your learning.
Reactive people are controlled by the world around them. This doesn’t only consist of learning, but emotions as well.
“UGH! She makes me sooooo mad! I can’t stand sitting next to her!”
“I had a terrible day because someone insulted my intelligence.”
Yeah, yeah, I know, a bit far-fetched. But you get what I mean. The person who insulted you in the morning? They walked away without feeling a thing and had a perfectly fine day. But if you hold in that anger, that’s your problem, not that guy’s. You go around the rest of the day sad and depressed, because you gave the remote control to someone else.
One day at school, one of my classmates laughed at me for being Miss Goody Two Shoes because of my looonnggg essay. It bothered me for the rest of the day, until I asked myself, “Look. He probably doesn’t even remember what happened today. So who’s problem is it? Mine. It’s my anger, my sadness, and I am going to grab my remote control back and not let other people mess up my entire day. It’s MY day, and it’s gonna be a GOOD DAY.”
You see the logic in that? What’s the point of being sad and down and worrying yourself the entire weekend? Grab your remote control back NOW.
Back to learning – if you’re not learning anything from a certain class, be proactive and talk to your teacher, change classes or develop your own study habits.
So be proactive. Trust me. You’ll be much happier. Oh, and did I mention that YOU have control of your life, not the world? It’s true.
PS: You’re the man. Be the Boss. :)
Share your thoughts about being proactive and comment below! Tell us about your breakthroughs in grabbing the remote control back! I love to hear from you :D